Relax. No One Else Knows What They’re Doing Either.

It’s been a while since my last blog post because now that I finally have some free time, I’ve been having all sorts of fun reconnecting with people

…and trying to figure out what I want to do next, career-wise. Still no clue, btw.

As I mentioned in my previous post, there are just so many possibilities, I don’t know which to choose!

So I actually have this project in mind that I’m calling "A Day in the Life" — where I plan to tag along with different friends on work days and see if I dig their jobs enough to add them to my shortlist.

HEY. I never claimed it was a GOOD plan. But I think it might be doable in some cases. Maybe not so much in others.

I’m always up for learning something new, though. And this is certainly a much more entertaining method of career path selection than say, browsing through classified ads… Especially since the majority of classified ads have this really annoying tendency to make jobs sound 10x harder than they actually are.

I’ve written a quite a few employment ads in my time, so I know this type of thing helps with the weeding-out process. Coming at it from the other side of the fence though, it just makes the less courageous among us feel horribly inadequate. Unnecessarily so, I might add.

The truth is, no matter how qualified you might be at any number of things, there will always be a learning curve whenever you start something new. Job, relationship, whatever. Everyone starts out as an idiot. You can see that as a downer, and make yourself feel all dumb and too old to learn new tricks… Or you can see it as an exciting new opportunity to expand your boundaries and become an increasingly more awesome version of yourself. The choice, as always, is yours.

When you find yourself veering down the road to Downer-Town, it helps to remember that no matter how old we are, we’re ALL groping in the dark, trying to navigate this maze of learning curves called adulthood.

Some just hide it better than others. :) So RELAX, and just enjoy the journey. Cheers!

It’s Never Too Late to Change the Story of Your Life

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I don’t talk about work very much, so a lot of people don’t know that I actually even have a day job.

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So I guess a whole blog post about how I’ll be retiring from it soon (after 13 years!) would be completely unnecessary — not to mention confusing.

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But yeah, I will be leaving my day job to start a new chapter of my life as… as a… hmmm… You know what? I have no idea.

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I mean, I have an assortment of mad marketing skillz and I’m an ace copywriter, so after a bit of vacay I guess I could go on to do something else along that vein… But it occurred to me that now would also be the perfect time to reinvent myself. Because really? It’s never too late to do that.

There are some things I’m a little too old (and uh, exceedingly unqualified) for, of course…

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But there’s also a whole untapped universe of possibilities that I never considered before. And OMG, discovering all that is already proving to be so exciting…

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…and I haven’t even seriously started yet!

I think we tend to limit ourselves and our thinking, often harshly and unnecessarily. We focus so much on what we CAN’T (or don’t want to) do, that we completely fail to see that there is so much that we can. (This applies not just to jobs and careers,  btw, but everything else in life.)

Think you’re too old to find a significant other? I know at least two people getting married this year (for the first time, mind you) — and they’re in their fifties! 

Too old to learn new tricks? NOT! My mom has a friend who switched careers and went to law school at the age of 40. (Or was it 50? can’t remember. I just remember that back when she told me about it, I thought her friend was ancient.)

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And my mom’s friend isn’t the only one who bloomed late in life… Henry Ford, Vera Wang, Stan Lee, Samuel L. Jackson… All these people made their fortunes AFTER the age of 40.

Knowing all this, you have to ask yourself — how are these people different from me? If they can do it, why can’t I?

Something to think about, for sure.

Our universe of options is wider than we think. I have no doubt that’s it’s possible to find success late in life, if we really want it and are willing work hard enough to make it happen. But in order for that to happen, we need to stop looking longingly down roads that are blocked, and try wandering instead down the open ones we never thought to explore before.

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It would also help to stop comparing ourselves to others and measuring our own success by their standards. 

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Remember… success is relative. Focus on your own garden, and just keep blooming, my friends. Just keep blooming. :)  Cheers!