So apparently there’s this "guerilla blogger" named Chase Compton using Yelp to eat/blog down memory lane after a bad breakup. I finally got around to reading some of his reviews yesterday, and OMG. They’re amazing.
Well okay, maybe not so amazing if you want actual restaurant reviews.
But for well-written, reflective, highly relatable and surprisingly uplifting insights into another person’s post-breakup process? Definitely.
I have to say, it really does make compelling reading. When I first read about him I was actually expecting him to be all whiny and glum and a bit of a downer — but he’s really not. He’s just… REAL. And honest.
My wildest dreams blinded me to the truth, and the truth is that in order to really be in love, it requires two hearts. One simply will not do. Even if it is the biggest, most pure, and loyal heart there is. - Von
You don’t really ever feel like he’s pitying himself, even when he probably is.
Jealousy is the hardest battle to fight, especially when it is purely one-sided. I had craved him endlessly, and yet he had found another. I had become the man I’d always dreamed, and found a job, and my niche, and a fulfilling life. I had become the man I had once seen shopping in Dean and Deluca that I thought was the pinnacle of success, but I was still lonely. - Dean & Deluca
And because I’ve been where he is, I totally get him. And I feel every single angsty pang right along with him.
Because we’ve all been there at one point or another, right? At some bar or restaurant after a loss, having to deal with the sights and scents and tastes and sounds you once enjoyed with someone who is no longer with you?
This is why, as Chase Compton moves from place to place, not really reviewing the restaurants but using them as springboards for remembrance and reflection, you’ll sort of want to reach out and give him a hug. And maybe share a slice of cake or go get drunk together or something.
This is also why you’ll want to cheer whenever you read a post like this one, where he anonymously pays for a stranger’s meal at Tue Thai Food:
If I could make someone happy today, then I knew that I was going to be okay. The best feeling in life is knowing that your destiny is one hundred percent in your own hands. I knew that I could find my own joy by bringing joy to someone else, even if it was only over cheap pad thai. I’d made it my mission to save myself by being the best person I could be.
There are so many things I am not: wealthy, fit, selfish, or vain. I had to focus on the things that I did have, and that was the ability to make others know that they are loved. It’s not much, but it’s what I have to work with. I may never be a wildly successful author, and I may never have the body of a Greek God, but I will always, always have the ability to make someone smile.
I paid my check and the stranger’s, and then walked out the door without even turning to look back. I felt light as a feather, and I floated my way back home feeling like the happiest boy in all of Greenwich Village.
Awwww. You go, Chase Compton!
And you, reading this… go check out Chase’s reviews. They really are a great read. Enjoy! :)
I spent the entire weekend in bed, which probably sounds disgusting, but I’m not even a little bit ashamed. I was pretty sick, so I have an excuse, but even if I hadn’t been sick I would’ve probably done the same. Because I’m a SLOTH like that.
Anyway I read 6 or 7 books, all of them pretty good…
But I think my fave of the weekend was Frigid by J. Lynn.
And not just because I like anything Jennifer Armentrout (a.k.a. J. Lynn) writes, but also because I JUST LOVE IT when best friends fall in love with each other. It’s so my new favorite storyline. (Yes, I’m kind of over the whole rock star thing.)
So okay, you can read the synopsis over at Amazon, but here’s the gist of the story:
Totally enjoyed it, I must say, so go read it. (Well, unless you’re like, under 18 because it’s another of those New Adult books with supersteamy scenes.)
And then this morning I read about this new blog called Forty Days of Dating. (Here’s the video. Tbh I don’t get it — but maybe that’s because I stopped watching when the RATS came out. Because RATS!! Gross. How they weren’t flailing their arms around and shrieking in terror, I have no idea.)
Two good friends with opposite relationship problems found themselves single at the same time. Tim is afraid of commitment, often dating many girls at once, and he’s losing sight of what a healthy relationship means. Jessica is a hopeless romantic, jumping into relationships too quickly, always looking to find “the one.”
It’s been said that it takes 40 days to change a bad habit. In an attempt to explore and hopefully overcome their fears and inadequacies, Tim and Jessica will go through the motions of a relationship for the next 40 days: the commitment, time, companionship, joys and frustrations. Can they help each other, or will they fall into their same habits? Will they damage their friendship? What if they fall in love?
OMG. Doesn’t it just sound like a real-life rom-com? I’m so reading that blog tonight. And given my “BFFs in love are the bestest thing EVAR!" gushing earlier in this post, I think we all know where I want this experiment to go.
Will they? Only time will tell, I guess… but COME ON. Don’t tell me they didn’t already like each other a little bit when they decided to date for forty days, right?
Anyway it got me wondering — is it even possible for a guy and a girl to be just BFFs and NOT get together? Or at the very least not seriously wonder and want to explore the possibility of being together?
Honestly, I don’t think so.
Please note, it’s highly possible that I just think this way because I’ve been there and done that in the past. Aaaand kind of ruined a perfectly wonderful opposite-sex best friendship in the process..
So yeah, I could be biased.
What do YOU think? I’m really curious.
The thing is, I think that when you’re best friends with someone of the opposite sex, it becomes way too easy to progress into something more. You already love each other. You’re exclusive, in a way. You’re committed to your relationship. You support each other. You’re pretty intimate with each other, if not physically then at least mentally and spiritually.
If you think about it, it’s almost like a marriage… minus the sexytimes. Which is why I think the romantic and/or physical elements (or thoughts of them — and the emotions that come along with that) inevitably become a question mark or confusion-causer at some point.
Am I wrong here? Has anyone ever had an opposite-sex BFF that they just NEVER thought of that way?
If you just raised your hand and said “ME! ME!” - here’s my response…
… but like I said, I’m biased, so don’t mind me. :)
I’ll be the first to admit that having friends of the opposite sex is great (and necessary!). But when you elevate one to Best Friend status, I just wonder if it really is possible to keep it purely platonic.
What are your thoughts? Agree? Disagree? Let’s discuss. The comments are open. :)
So remember that secret I was dying over last week?
Well this was it. My blog’s a finalist for “Blogger Phenom of the Year” in the 2013 Tatt Awards!
I can’t even begin to describe how thrilled I was when I found out, especially since I didn’t know I was even in the running.
It was a little excruciating to have to keep it to myself, because as I already mentioned in my other post, I’m really not so good with the secrets. So I had to just content myself with secret happy award thoughts and practicing a possible acceptance speech.
But hey, I did it. (Well, okay, kind of. I told a few people — but only like 5. Okay FINE - maybe 12. ish). But anyway, they finally announced the finalists last night (until then I had no idea who the others were) — and here they (I mean, we) are.
Of course when I saw this, the first thing that came into my head was this.
So fine, maybe I should also start practicing my “gracious loser” smile.
Yeah, it needs some work. Maybe the Botox will help, when it kicks in.
And here’s another thing. I’m really embarrassed about asking people to vote for me. I can barely ask people to like my Facebook page, much less start self-campaigning for an award.
So um… yeah…good luck to me.
I know people say this all the time and we’re always “Haha! Yeah, RIGHT…" about it, but it really is an honor to be considered at all — and for me that’s already a win. So thank you, Tatt Awards. I really am thrilled beyond belief.
And if you do by any chance want to vote, you can do so at the Tatt Awards website, every hour of every day until June 20.
Umm.. you know… only if you want…
Have a great day, everyone! :)
Okay, I’m pretty much over the whole Game of Thrones trauma thing, but I’m having a heck of a week at work, so I have to extend my blog break a bit. Because seriously, folks… I got nothin’.
We all know what this means, of course. NEW IMAGINARY BFF.
Kristin, the girl who writes it, is like the female version of Adam from Books of Adam (another blog I’ve written about before) and get this… they’re actually best friends or something. They even have these amazingly creative non-text text conversations. I’m so jealous.
So yeah I kind of agonize over that all the time now, and in the meantime, cool Kristin’s over in New York, being all…
Go check out her blog, because it’s hilarious and her illustrations just kill me. Here’s a sample from her post Essentially the Odyssey.
And don’t even think about missing the one about the poop in the pool. Because OMGLOL.
She a fab one, my new BFF. Enjoy :)
Be back soon!
All illustrations that are obviously not mine are Kristin’s. Obviously.
Oh and thanks Joe Tanjuan for the rec!
So yesterday was kind of awesome, because Whee! My blog got featured on Chuvaness! If you’re not familiar with the Chuvaness blog, then I really don’t know what’s up with that, because Cecile van Straten (the lovely lady behind it) is kind of like the Empress of the Philippine Internet. So YAY!
I kind of knew that she was going to write a post about Fab After Forty because she was asking me some questions about it a while back (one of which led me to a bit of an identity crisis, btw). She also asked me for a cute photo, which also sent me into quite the tizzy because I really did not have one. We all know how I’ve been hiding from cameras the past few years, so all my recent pics are carefully orchestrated partials.
So yeah, if you see that photo on her blog, please bear in mind that it’s pretty old, and just mentally Photoshop to add 20 pounds or so.
I think she was also a little surprised when she once asked me about my readership and I gave her a guesstimate of how many people read my blog. I was kind of cringing and imagining her reaction to the modest figure to be something like this…
… but she was really nice about it, all “Oh? Okay, I think more people should read it.” And then off she went to be all sorts of awesome and Oprah-ish.
I lurve her. Thanks, Cecile!
The blogger community is pretty great. I never actually realized this until I started blogging last year, but in the past year I’ve made some really good blog buddies and I never fail to marvel at how supportive they can be — from sharing posts, to leaving comments, or adding links to their own blogs to lead to yours. It’s amazing. And really heartwarming.
If you really think about it, everyone’s a fairy blogmother (or okay, blogfather). We all have our spheres of influence. They may not be large (like on a scale of 1 to Chuvaness, I’m maybe a 3. Um, on a good day.) but we all have the ability to lift other writers up and share the good stuff around. And I for one am always happy to discover new blogs that I’ve never seen before. So let’s do it!
Share the love, babies. Let’s all do a Chuvaness. If there’s a blog you like that you think other people should read, blog about it. Or tweet a link. Or feel free to share in the comments here. For my part, here are a few faves that I’ve mentioned in previous posts:
More to come. In the meantime, enjoy!
Happy long weekend, everyone!
I woke up way too early today because I had one of those dreams where you wake up mad at your husband but you can’t really remember why.
So while I’m a little too groggy to actually write anything for my own blog, I did get to read a whole bunch of other blogs this morning, so here are my random 3 picks for the day.
THE GOOD: For a feel-good fix, head on over to Thought Catalog and read The One Ingredient Necessary for Accepting Yourself.
It’s one of the most insightful and enlightening posts I’ve read in a long time, and as my friend Racquel says — if you only have time to read one thing today, this should be it. Bravo, David Cain.
THE BAD: Please note — This post on The Spoiled Mummy is not really BAD bad — just bad if you’re on a diet. :) If you’re not, it’s pretty frakking awesome. Same applies to pretty much any post on her blog.
My friend Miguel and I were discussing food options for a dinner party, and I sent him to go look at TSM’s Noche Buena 2012 post to check out the dishes she ordered for Christmas Eve. Go check it out it too, because YUM. Also, BONELESS LECHON.
So yeah, I guess you know what we’ll be ordering for sure. :) Like I said, so bad… but so good. (I honestly think that should be the tagline of The Spoiled Mummy’s blog.)
THE UGLY: My niece Anna shared this link from Chronicles of a Nursing Mom on Facebook, which is good, because I would never have seen it otherwise. (I mean it’s not as if I go around reading blogs about breastfeeding on a regular basis, right?)
According to the Nursing Mom’s client:
After consuming the contents of 1 of the cartons, our yaya was surprised that the carton was still a bit heavy. She shook the carton & there was still something inside. Upon opening, we discovered a large foreign object inside. It was white, as wide and as long as the carton and about 3 inches tall, as you can see in the picture below. Upon close inspection, we still were not sure what it was. Seemed like it was plastic, paper, tissue & curdled milk all mushed into 1 piece.
There’s a pic of the curdled mass of mystery here. I can’t even look at it because every time I even think about it I start to retch.
I’m not even exaggerating. There’s nothing that makes me want to barf more than the thought of drinking something and discovering an unwelcome surprise at the bottom of the container.
So BLARG. And BLECCCH. While I’m sure there isn’t a mystery mass in every Nestle carton, it should serve as a precautionary tale to everyone — Check for gross things in containers before consuming. Always.
And that’s it. What did you read online today? Feel free to share your good, bad and/or ugly picks in the comments! :)
Filipinos love food, so it only stands to reason that there are a ton of food blogs in our local blogosphere. The thing is, the majority seem to be more of restaurant review types.
(Yeah, everyone’s a critic over here. And a budding food photographer.)
While I enjoy those types of food blogs, there are just too many of them, and they tend to review a lot of the same places. I’m also a little suspicious of some, because it’s really tempting to sell your soul for some free food.
I personally prefer food blogs with recipes, because I’m the delusional type who actually thinks I have the time and talent to make them.
Oh well, a girl can dream, right?
So anyway, if you’re like me, here are 5 recipe-type food blogs I really like. I’m pretty sure you’ll enjoy them too.
Pepper.ph is a really popular blog which I first discovered when they posted a recipe hack of Real Coffee Boracay’s Calamansi Muffins. Of course, I messed it up, but that was through no fault of the Pepper peeps.
They do a lot of food hacks - which I love - but they also have a lot of really fabulous recipes of their own. They also do fearless, unbiased restaurant reviews by real chefs, which I totally appreciate. But the thing that really keeps me going back to this blog is the FOOD PORN.
Their food photos are just so gorgeous, I often have to resist the urge to lick my iPad. Go have a look for yourself. The blog’s supposed to be “silly and rebellious” but it’s hands-down the most polished and professional-looking blog among my faves.
I love Erwan Heussaff’s food blog for a lot of reasons — the name being the first. THE FAT KID INSIDE? How cute is that??? And btw - how cute is HE?
He’s adorable. More so because he used to be fat, and I can relate. Even if I’m a Fat Kid Inside AND Outside. He’s like an inspiration to fat people everywhere.
I often make the mistake of thinking that life is fair, and that if someone’s gorgeous he/she probably doesn’t have a brain, but no… Erwan disproves that. His posts are well-written, and his recipes are great (yummy, pretty easy to make, and best of all - healthy), so his blog is really a pleasure to read.
I’ve actually known Joey, the lovely lady behind 80 Breakfasts (and the Family Kitchen column in Yummy magazine) for a while but I had no idea she had a food blog until a few months ago. I’m so glad I discovered it!
I have this long, practically cobwebbed list of recipes from her blog that I plan to make someday (because they really do look fantastic) and she has a warm, chatty writing tone that makes you feel like you’re sitting at her kitchen counter, licking leftover cookie batter from a bowl as you listen to her. She’s great.
The adventures of a Real Girl making Real Food in her Toy Kitchen. Hilarity or tragedy ensues. Then dinner.
I only discovered this blog yesterday when Johanna left a funny comment on one of my posts. This woman really cracks me up, and I’ve decided to make her my new blog BFF… whether she likes it or not.
FOOD and FUNNY. How can I not love this blog? Johanna’s recipes look champ, but it’s the hilarious write-ups that’ll definitely keep me coming back for more. Two thumbs up to my new BFF.
I listed this blog last because I haven’t actually visited it in a while, but it’s a great (and very well-known) food blog nonetheless. I’ve always found it really interesting because the blogger prefers to stay anonymous and just refers to himself as “Marketman” — which makes me think of him as some sort of food superhero.
.. which he probably is to his many foodie fans.
His blog isn’t really a recipe blog per se, although he does have a lot of great recipes, like this one for what he calls the best adobo ever — which I’ve always been interested in but too intimidated to make. He’s more of like a market expert (hence the superhero name - MARKETMAN!!!) who can tell you where to find the best ingredients for everything. If you cook, he’s your man. MARKETMAN!!!
Aaaand that’s it, folks! If you know of any other good recipe-type Filipino food blogs, please let me know! I’d love to discover more.
Happy reading (and stomach-rumbling)! :)
Erwan Heussaff photo credit: Ramona Gonzalez of Spot.ph. Please don’t sue me. :)
I didn’t have time to write a full post today so I just illustrated a tweet from yesterday.
But of course I got distracted (as I so often do), so instead of just posting the drawing and moving on to something more productive, I started looking for other tweets to illustrate.
And then I was all “HEY! I can totally make ‘Illustrated Tweets’ a regular feature on my blog!" — until I realized a lot of my tweets really weren’t all that draw-able (or interesting) and discovered that the whole ‘Illustrated Tweets’ thing was really not an original idea.
So ummm… forget that. Buhbye, bright idea. You were fun while you lasted.
Anyway, since you probably won’t be finding them on this blog, you can find a whole bunch of funny illustrated tweets on these blogs instead:
“Friday the 13th loses a little of its ominousness when you discover that it’s also National Peach Cobbler Day.” - The Texanist (@thetexanist) via Twitter
There are more, but I actually got guilty (and consequently, productive) after about an hour of browsing/chuckling.
I love the illustrations on all of them, and they’re a great way to discover new, amusing people on Twitter. Go check them out, and enjoy! :)
I recently read an article about a blog network called Triberr, and I immediately got jealous of everyone on it. I kind of like the idea of being part of a blog community, with everyone reading and sharing each others’ content.
Two problems, though: (1) You need to have a blog category — and I honestly have no idea what category my blog falls under. Seriously, I have no clue. It’s a problem.
And (2) You have to constantly share each each others’ links, which means that if I join the wrong tribe just because I’m confused about my own identity, I might actually end up tweeting links to posts my Twitter peeps might not appreciate.
So anyway, I’ve been looking around for blogs that were like mine (you know, with drawings and some sort of amusing commentary recounting personal experiences, etc) so I could try to just COPY their category — and whee! I found 3!!!
They’re funny! and awesome! — and umm, so much better than mine.
But what the hey. I’ve always been of the opinion that you should surround yourself with people who are better than you anyway, because they inspire you to step up and try harder.
So here are my three top picks for my imaginary blog tribe:
If my blog could have a boyfriend, Books of Adam would be “THE ONE.” This guy Adam is absolutely hilarious, and such a talented cartoonist (he even has animation!). The drawing above is from a post of his called The Tooth, which is seriously one of the funniest things I have ever read.
I honestly think one of the saddest days on the Internet was when Allie from Hyperbole and a Half stopped blogging. I don’t really know what happened. Her last post was about being sad. And then she just quit. (Damn you, SADNESS!!!)
But if you’ve never read her blog before, she has a ton of old posts to keep you entertained for a while. Here’s a series of drawings from her post “The God of Cake" - which is one of my all-time faves.
Love her. :) Come back, Allie!
3. Verbal Vomit
It killed me. :D
Verbal Vomit also has a bunch of posts about being a hipster, and some other really funny stories, so it’s another extremely entertaining read. I particularly liked this one about when she and her BFF were kids, and bizarrely obsessed with lint.
Too funny. ;)
So, cool! I have a tribe!
Umm, no, not really. Because sadly, my blog BFF’s don’t really post that often. Adam posts maybe twice a month, Verbal Vomit about once a month, and Allie of H&aH — well, not since she got sad. In 2011.
So if we really were a tribe, our meetings would look something like this on most days.
Oh well, whatevs. Go check out my imaginary blog besties anyway. I guarantee you’ll love them. And if you find any more blogs like mine, please let me know! My tribal tent is always open. :)
I read a lot of blogs, and I love personal, handmade Christmas gifts (even when they turn out to be disasters — it’s the thought that counts) so I was pretty thrilled when I saw this great idea from @familyfoodie on Twitter today:
How cool is that? If I wasn’t already 3/4 done with my Christmas shopping, I’d totally do that this year — make a bunch of illustrated cards (or a little booklet!) using the best recipes from my favorite food blogs.
Well since I can’t do it, feel free to steal the idea. You could even do a variation of this, where you give just one recipe card AND the ingredients they’ll need for it.
This should work pretty well for baked goods but you can also do it for soup recipes and other things with ingredients that’ll look good layered in a bottle.
If you’re not much of a foodie, you can apply the same idea to arts and crafts instead. Go grab some ideas off Pinterest or other crafts blogs and make a kit with instructions and all the materials they’ll need.
Cool, right? I love the whole DOUBLE-DO-IT-YOURSELF-ness of it. I make something, so that you can make something! We’re both creative and awesome! Whee!
Of course not everyone will appreciate this type of present, so pick your recipients wisely.
Yeah, you can’t please everybody. :)
If you have any more creative and blog-inspired DIY gift ideas, feel free to share in the comments!
Have a great week, everyone!