Posts Tagged "social media"

3 Points to Ponder on Social Media Day

So speaking at Manila’s Social Media Day celebration yesterday was kind of fun… even if the hosts pretty much introduced me as the OLDEST PERSON IN THE ROOM.

 Hehe, just kidding Chuckie Dreyfuss. I wasn’t really thinking that. :D

If you weren’t there, here’s a quick recap of my talk. 

I was actually asked to talk about my blog and how it grew, but I thought that might seem a little self-centered, so although I blabbed about the blog a little bit and how I started out… (and how much I sucked at drawing in the beginning)…

I decided to focus instead on 3 points that I thought might be worth pondering on — not just for bloggers, but for pretty much anyone active in social media.

Here’s the first point:

We all have something unique to share, that only we can can bring to the world. As my regular stalkee Neil Gaiman says,

It’s totally true. And it doesn’t just apply to artists. So get out there and stop depriving the world of whatever it is that only YOU can bring to it. 

Point #2: 

You may have seen this quote before on the Fabstagram. I really do love it… and for good reason. Too often we’re so caught up in the dopamine rush of likes and comments and retweets that we end up being swallowed into the big social media mob and losing our own identity. We start writing what we think will be popular, rather than what we really believe.

Let’s quit that. While your point of view may not be super popular, at least it’s yours. Take pride in that, and stop worrying so much about the numbers. Quality always trumps quantity. 

So find your own voice, make it a real voice, and lastly…

Point #3:

As I’ve said several times before, the whole point of living is really just to make the world a little better, in whatever way we can, with the tools at our disposal. If you can’t make it better, then at at least try not to make it worse. :)

Your voice is more powerful than you think. The pen (or stylus, or keyboard) is mightier than the sword. Use your powers for good

That is all. Happy Social Media Day, everyone! 

p.s. Last day of voting for the Tatt Awards today - let’s go! Vote out loud!

The Reaction to No Reactions

I got another reader request the other day, so since I’m feeling horribly headachey, I thought I’d answer it instead of attempting the longer post I had planned.

Here’s the question:


And here’s the answer. :)


Hehe. I’m sure other bloggers can probably relate. Social media feedback is addictive, after all. I’m pretty lucky though because this doesn’t really happen very often. I usually get at least a few likes or whatever with every new blog post.. And for as long as I don’t try to compare myself with someone like Chuvaness, I’m cool with that. :)


It used to bum me out a bit in the beginning, but then I realized over time that the number of likes/RTs/comments/shares you get for a post isn’t necessarily a good gauge of how many people actually read it.

I’m always surprised when I’m at a party or something and someone tells me that they read my blog, because I still tend to sometimes assume that the only people who read it are those who react.


Not true, apparently. If you’d like a more accurate picture of your readership, check your blog stats on Google Analytics or something similar.  What you find might actually blow your mind. :)

And whenever I’m feeling sorry for myself because no one comments on a post, I always make myself feel better by re-reading this lovely note I once received on my Facebook page:

Awww. I lurve him.

It’s the personal messages like these that I get in my Tumblr inbox, or by email or on Facebook or Twitter or in person, face to face, that I really value, over the quick one-click likes or RTs or reblogs. 

Having said all that though, the reactions (or lack thereof) that you do get on social media really shouldn’t be ignored, because they give you a pretty good picture of what works and what doesn’t when it comes to content. If you blog for business, that’s important. (If you blog for fun and for the sheer joy of just blabbing away like me, then maybe not so much. But still helpful.)

At the end of the day I think that regardless of feedback — good or bad, online or offline, plentiful or nonexistent — every blogger should JUST KEEP BLOGGING ANYWAY. Because self-expression — whether anyone’s listening or not — is good for the mind and soul. And writing’s kind of like a muscle. You need to keep exercising it, and the more you do it, the better you get. 

The thing I personally find most valuable about blogging is that it forces me to take time out to think and reflect on things, so I end up learning more about myself and the world around me with every post I write. That’s fab. 

So yup, while my knee-jerk reaction to a zero-feedback post might be “Aw, bummer..”  my longer-term reaction is always the same: Keep right on blogging anyway. Because more than anything else, I blog for me. 

When people do read and react, then that just makes an already awesome experience even better. So thanks, whoever’s reading this. I lurve you too. :)

Have a fab weekend, everyone! 

To Purge or Not to Purge? The Social Network Spring Cleaning Dilemma

It’s a holiday today so I woke up with a great plan to do some spring cleaning. Why I even call it that, I don’t know — we don’t even have spring in the Philippines.


And why I even thought of cleaning, I have no idea either. It’s way too hot to do anything that requires more energy than clicking a mouse or flicking on an air conditioner switch.


So um, forget that. I still felt like cleaning something up though, so I decided to make a list of things I can spring (ok, fine SUMMER) clean without dissolving into a puddle of sweat and grossly unidentifiable goo.

And just to show you how lazy and lethargic this blasted summer heat makes me, I ended up with an embarrassingly short list: 


So okay, I guess that’s that, then. Social networks it is.

I’m a bit of a social media ho (more so on Twitter than Facebook) and I’ll pretty much befriend anyone with a pulse.


But as my friend and following lists grow I realize that there are people on my feeds who either (1) piss me off or bring me down, or (2) really have nothing to say/share that interests me in the slightest.

I always plan to purge these people at some point, but I don’t know, I can never seem to bring myself to do it.


Thing is, unfriending and unfollowing is such a nasty business. I mean, seriously, these days it’s like equivalent to a slap in the face. Rejection sucks, and I hate being the bad guy.  I mean, geez, that’s like 20% of the reason I love being with my husband. He has no problem whatsoever taking on the bad cop role in anything, so I get to be the good cop all the time.


It’s great. Unfortunately he’s like the Internet equivalent of a hermit, so he can’t help me with my dilemma.  

This article entitled You Don’t Have To Be Friends With Everybody did, though.

We live in an age where we feel guilt whenever we have to cut someone off but the reality is that some relationships do need to die, some people do need to be unfollowed and defriended. We aren’t meant to be this tethered to the people in our past. The Internet mandates that we don’t burn bridges and keep everyone around like relics but those expectations are unrealistic and unhealthy. Simply put, we don’t need to know what everyone else is up to. We’re allowed to be choosy about who we surround ourselves with online and in real life, even if it might hurt people’s feelings. - Thought Catalog

The writer has a point. I always say that your social media wall/profile is your space, and you have a right to post whatever you please. I’ll always believe that.

But following the same argument, my news feed is MY space, and I have the same right to see only what I want to see, and cut out anything that isn’t positive, or uplifting, or educational or entertaining to me. 

So will I purge? Eep. I still don’t know.


My inner good cop is conflicted. Geez, she’s such a people-pleaser. I may just let my inner coward take over and just “hide” people instead. That’s a start, right? :)

What are your thoughts on the issue?  How do you manage your social media feeds and weed out inessentials or undesirables?  Let me know. I’d really love to find out. 

Cheers! And happy holiday!

5 Social Media Mysteries I Just Don’t Understand

I’ve already established in previous posts that I spend way too much time online, so I think I can safely say that I’ve pretty much seen every type of social media update/behavior imaginable.  But I have to be honest and say that there are many that I just don’t understand. So I sometimes find myself looking at my monitor and asking in bafflement…


Take, for example, the ubiquitous Twitter horoscopes (or Twittascopes, if you want to be more accurate/annoying) that flood Twitter at certain times during the day. Yeah, I don’t get them. 


I get that some people like to read their horoscopes. What I don’t get is why they need to auto-tweet them.  What’s that about?  Please explain. 

Another similar (and maybe even more mystifying) type of auto-tweet I see a lot is the Twitter statistics tweet


Why would you want to put that out there?  If your stats are bad, you look kawawa. If your stats are good — well, how am I supposed to react? “Oh wow! You have 1000 retweets this week. You must be fascinating or super funny! I should follow you! OH WAIT… I ALREADY DO.” 

So again, I ask… 


And baffling behavior is not just a Twitter thing. Facebook shiz can be even more confusing. One thing I’ve always been curious about? Joint Facebook couple accounts.  


Look I’m not dissing them, I’m sure they have perfectly good reasons for choosing to be a single online entity. I just don’t know what those reasons are.  And I have to say, it really can be confusing, especially when they both update the account and you don’t know who the hell is talking.  

Another confusing Facebook phenomenon? People who ask you to like their page when (1) they barely know you, and/or (2) you have no frigging idea what their business is even about

That kills me. Telling me about your page is okay. But don’t ask me to like it straight off. That’s just weird and pushy.


I think the biggest mystery ever though — and one I will likely never really find an explanation for — is trolling.


Yeah,’ haters gonna hate’ and all that, but it’s important to point out, I think, that not every hater is a troll. Trolls are a whole different species. And you have to wonder, what made them that way? What kind of life experience turns out that particular brand of sorry behavior? 

I’m baffled, really. So if you have any explanations for any of the above, then please… Enlighten me.  

Aaand that’s it for me today. What confuses you? Let me know in the comments and let’s be baffled together.  :)